We’ve all seen it happen at one point or another, or had it happen to us. Someone posts a review on Goodreads (normally either a five star review or a one star review), and suddenly, the comments are flooding in. Some are people agreeing. Some are people disagreeing, but politely. And some are yelling out HERE IS MY OPINION AND WHY YOURS IS TOTALLY WRONG.
And, basically, whatever the reviewer does, it’s the wrong thing. They don’t say anything, and they’re ignoring the poster. They stand up for themselves, and they’re bullying the poster off the thread. And if they go so far as to delete a mean comment (GASP!), they’re practically black-listed, especially if the poster is a popular reviewer.
And, yes, there are some people who are just looking to pick fights. But I do think that some of these people just don’t know that they’re attempting to have an argument, they’re just trying to state their opinions. Admittedly, in not that great of a way, but bookworms like to talk about books. And that is what they’re trying to do.
But it is good to know who’s trying to argue and who’s just trying to have a conversation, even if they have a differing opinion.
AND SO, THE DIFFERENCE
-People tend to be way more aggressive
-They tend to want you to change your opinion, or admit you’re wrong
-They will tend to call your opinion wrong flat-out, and if not flat-out, it still tends to be very clear in their wording.
-If you point out something that they might have done “wrong” (AKA, called your opinion wrong/bad), they will often get very defensive and try to make you out as the bad guy.
-They might start mentioning how you’re insulting the author because you gave the book a bad review.
-If you eventually stop replying to them, they will tend to get very hostile, and start bad-mouthing you, even if it’s just to the other people commenting/standing up for you.
-There’s less of a feeling of someone trying to prove you wrong
-They tend to be calmer, and nicer about their opinion
-They tend not to attempt to try to change your opinion on the book
-They will apologize if they accidentally offend or insult you or your opinion. Because that was it was; an accident.
So, blogglings, did I miss anything? Have you ever had to deal with something like this? If so, how did you handle it?
Also! I am currently writing a novel with a totally awesome cowriter, and the first chapter was posted on Wattpad on Monday. It’s basically the world’s strangest mix of fantasy and sci-fi and dystopian, and you should totally go and read it, if I do say so myself. It’s called Zephyr. Go. //pushes